I’m 20F and he’s 22M.
We started talking recently and clicked really fast over text. We were texting a lot for a few days and the conversations flowed really well, including some deeper topics.
On our first date, we got drinks, so we were both a bit tipsy, but overall it went really well. At first it was a little awkward, but we warmed up quickly and ended up talking for hours. There was a lot of natural chemistry, like small touches, holding hands, etc. He asked before kissing me, and we ended up making out a bit. We also both said during the date that we’d like to see each other again.
The next day, we went on a second date, and that’s where I started feeling confused. It wasn’t bad, but it felt more awkward. There were moments where we didn’t really know what to talk about, and we even had periods where we were just sitting and listening to music. He seemed completely fine with that, but I felt kind of awkward and more nervous than on the first date.
I also don’t know how to interpret how physically affectionate he is this early on. He’s pretty touchy, like holding my hands, playing with my fingers, touching my knee, putting his arm around me, and pulling me closer, and he gives me cheek kisses sometimes. This man even gave me forehead kisses on our first date🙂↕️.
And It’s not inappropriate at all, like he’s not touching me in a sexual way or crossing any boundaries, and I didn’t feel uncomfortable. But I’m still a bit skeptical because I’ve heard people say that if a guy is very touchy early on, it can mean he’s not looking for something serious. At the same time, this doesn’t really feel like love bombing either, so I’m not sure how to read it.
He also told me he paused his Hinge, which feels kind of fast to me.
What confuses me is that sometimes he seems shy and quiet, but other times he’s very physically forward, so I can’t really read him. I also don’t know if the awkwardness is because we’re both nervous and like each other, or if it means there’s just not that much chemistry in person.
I’m also wondering if going on a second date the very next day made things feel more intense than they should.
I do like him, but something feels a bit off for me and I can’t fully explain why. I’m also not very experienced with dating, so I don’t know what’s normal.
Is this just how early dating can feel sometimes, or are these signs that we’re moving too fast or not actually that compatible? And how would you even bring up intentions at this stage without making it weird?
